NEVER TRY ONLY DO
We often think of failure as the inability to accomplish a certain objective. We give it our best shot and the results are less than favorable. We’ve failed.
Ah, but does that have to be the end of the story? No! We can consider it a failure ONLY if we stop trying after we experience the less than favorable result.
If we keep working at it, we might turn a “failure” into a success!
Do yourself a favor and change your definition of failure right now. Here is your new definition of failure:
Not having a plan, not working a plan, and giving up too soon.
Think of any great achievement in history, and you can be certain that the achiever had to attempt it more than once – sometimes hundreds of times!
If you’ve “failed” at anything in the past, be honest with yourself: how many times did you try? Did you give it a halfhearted effort and then give up when it seemed too hard? Did you let yourself become intimidated by challenges, or disempowered by negative comments from friends and colleagues?
Though you may believe that it was out of your hands, it’s important to understand something:
You made a choice to fail.
You gave up. You stopped trying. It doesn’t matter what the reasons were, even though they may have seemed perfectly logical at the time. The fact is, you allowed external conditions to erode your motivation and determination, and you threw in the towel.
You may resist this idea because let’s face it; it’s not a comfortable thing to hear. But this painful little insight comes with some good news!
If you made the choice to fail, you can also make the choice to succeed.
Whether you decide to pick up an old dream and dust it off or choose an exciting new path to travel, the outcome is within your control!
With the right attitude, focused action steps and a solemn vow to never give up, success will be yours.
Don’t approach your goals with an attitude of “try,” only an attitude of DO! That little gem by the fictional character of Yoda actually holds a tremendous amount of wisdom.
Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.
- Louis Pasteur
“Trying” means you are not going to give it your all. It means you will keep going until the going gets too tough. It means you are giving yourself an out in case you grow weary of the battle. It means you are giving yourself permission to surrender to mediocrity.
“Doing” means that failure is not an option. It means that you vow to give every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you have available because you believe in your dreams that much. It means that you cannot and will not accept defeat because the stakes are too high. It means that you are willing to work as long and as hard as necessary to achieve the outcome you desire, even if it takes years.
This is your life and you must decide that there is no going back, no giving up, no giving in – NO MATTER WHAT!
In today's world all people are getting confused with happiness.
If you ask them " how they are " either they will say - they are happy or they will tell you all about their problems. Actually the fact is that all are in false fantacy they don't know what the happiness really is. They find their happiness in their needs, in their dreams and due to that criteria things are beings loved and people are normally used and day by day everyone is going to full of negativity and in today's world love is totally lost even people forget the real meaning of love now a days they find their love in physical requirements and childrens are becoming careless about their parents and their future whenever you will ask something from them there answer will be I don't know or I don't care and in actually these things give much pain to our grand parents . There you can see a clear boundary where everyone want to live their life - that boundary contain food money and Internet beyond these things people don't think a good life can be" becoz all these are false fantacy " if you ask a royal person about his life then you will find his life is also full pain and troubles and only then you will ask from yourself - that Royal person has good food alots of money and Internet thn why he is so sad from his life and again you will get confuse with happiness.
Because happiness is something which only can be created by inside it neither find outside or nor buy from anyone. Do you know what happiness is in reality - It is satisfactory moment of your life when you feel you are happy with what you have with your family and childrens. There are many ways to remain always happy in your life and the first one is - love what you have . and second one is you don't have to care what's the thing which pulls you down as well as your happiness and the third one is that you have to attentive about your family all what they want from you is not a good home and nice infrastructure they want u as you are in ur childhood and the most important thing which brings you all your happiness is connection with God God is the only one who can give u so much love without any condition if u want to be happy always thn follow God links about happiness then you will become happy 100% and meditation is the good way to create a link with God.
Intellectually, we may know that money can’t buy happiness, but some part of us still believes that we’d feel better if we were rich. Yet when we really look at wealthy people, we must wonder if they are any happier than the average person. Do wealthy people laugh more, experience more joy, or have greater fulfillment in their lives? Perhaps some do – but how much of it is a direct result of their wealth?
In fact, you can probably point to a handful of wealthy people that appear to be completely miserable. Not surprisingly, some people seem to become less satisfied the wealthier they become! Perhaps they were under the misconception that money would solve all their problems, or having a large amount of money brought along its own challenges. I’m sure you’ve heard the horror stories about people who win the lottery or come into a large sum of money through an inheritance or other means. Many of them experience a few years of heartache and struggle, and end up flat broke again. Money didn’t solve their problems – only made them worse!
Another reason why wealth can make us miserable is that it distracts us from what is truly important for a happy and fulfilling life. We find ourselves focusing more and more on material objects and end up feeling disconnected from our inner selves.
If you are feeling unhappy in your life right now and you’re thinking that money will solve your problems, it's time for a reality check! I won’t deny that having material abundance can make our lives a little easier. Believe me, I’m all too aware of what it’s like to struggle to pay the bills, or feel like you’re living on the edge of a cliff and the ground is crumbling beneath your feet. I know the terror of worrying whether the electricity will be shut off for nonpayment, or wondering if you’ll be able to afford to buy groceries this week.
I’m not trying to minimize these types of struggles – but I want you to be clear that having a lot of money will not automatically make you feel happy and content in your life.
Money can definitely help us to enjoy a greater quality of life, but only if we have a healthy attitude toward money; otherwise it will just add bigger burdens
Remember in a previous chapter I said that your attitude is like the yeast added to your bread recipe? ACTION is like the heat from the oven that merges all the ingredients and transforms them into a delicious treat.
Without action, everything I’ve said in this book so far is worthless. Perhaps “worthless” is too strong a word. There is merit in developing a mind-set of success, in adopting a positive attitude, and in learning to love yourself. These habits can continue to serve you in positive ways even when you’re not working toward a goal.
As important as that is, action is undoubtedly a crucial aspect of success. You can set goals and change your mind-set until you are blue in the face but if you never take action, nothing will change in your physical surroundings.
Music is one of the oldest and most effective modes of therapy in the world. It has been used to soothe children to sleep and for some time, people believed that classical music can actually increase an unborn child’s IQ. Since our focus is on increasing adult brain power, let’s focus on how music can help achieve this goal for us:
1. Music has been used extensively as a supporting treatment for anxiety-related disorders. If you are feeling anxious or agitated most of the time because of stress at work or at home, listening to music can help manage what you’re feeling right now.
Music may not fix an erratic boss, but it can help you stay sane even if you have to deal with bad office problems every day.
The trick is to always give yourself the opportunity to recover from stress. Sources of stress are a part of life; we can only disconnect ourselves from these sources of stress from time to time to take care of ourselves mentally and physically.
2. Established studies have shown that music has the capacity to lower high blood pressure and it appears that listening to music also has a beneficial effect on patients suffering from dementia.
Some studies have also shown that music can even help premature infants gain more weight in a shorter period of time compared to preemies who were not given music therapy. You can just imagine how powerful the effect of music can be on the human body – it can even encourage tissue growth and weight gain!
3. It has been found that listening to music and playing musical instruments can actual increase important parts of the brain, like corpus callosum, which is actually responsible for linking the two hemispheres of the human brain.
Playing musical instruments has also been shown to increase the size of the motor cortex of the brain (precisely because playing musical instruments requires not only knowledge of music theory but also dexterity and manual skill during the manipulation of musical instruments).
4. Playing music helps improve spatial skills continuously, so don’t be apprehensive about ‘not being able to play decently’ because your brain will make sure that you will play well when you learn a new instrument.
Choose a musical instrument that you would love to play at home and try to learn it on your own. You can hire a teacher, too, if that’s what you want. The important thing here is that you are able to learn something new, play a musical instrument and listen to new music all at the same time.
Speed reading is really just a way of reading text using a system that allows readers to get most of the ideas in individual paragraphs without reading the text normally (word by word).
Speed reading, like other self-taught systems, is also highly recommended because it allows the brain to learn new skills and it challenges your pre-existing system of gathering and processing information from text.
While the fear of failure is a clear reason why many of us avoid pursuing our goals, there is another fear that is often harder to recognize: the fear of success.
Why would you be afraid of success, you ask? There are several reasons:
Lack of belief in yourself. If you don’t truly believe in your own ability to get (and stay) successful, you will avoid forward progress at all costs. You may subconsciously feel that even if others believed you to be successful, you would still feel like a fraud. That would be an uncomfortable position to be in, so you hold yourself back until you feel “ready” to be successful.
Fearing increased responsibility. You might be resisting a higher level of achievement because you don’t feel capable of handling all the responsibility that would inevitably come with it. Once you become successful, you will have certain obligations and steps that need to be taken in order to maintain your level of success. That can be frightening and intimidating, and you may doubt your ability to handle new challenges you will face.
Low self-worth. If you don’t believe you deserve to be successful and happy, you will naturally gravitate toward a position in life that matches your self-image. If you believe you deserve to be earning $15,000 per year, you will continue to do so. Trying to force yourself to increase your income will be futile because subconsciously you will resist it. You will view increased abundance with suspicion, wondering “what’s the catch?” – even if there is none!
Worries about what others will think. This actually goes along with low self-worth. You may have a habit of letting others define you rather than forging your own path. You might believe that rich and successful people are dishonest, cruel, rude, cold, greedy, or any number of other stereotypes.
General negative expectations. You may not have any identifiable fears about success, but rather experience a general sense of uneasiness or resistance to it. You might simply be afraid of the unknown, or pessimistic about the longevity of your success.
There are many more possible reasons to fear success, but they don’t matter for the purposes of this book. What does matter is figuring out what YOUR fears are (if you feel you may have some).
Here is a simple exercise to help you know for sure if you might be afraid of success:
Give some thought to what success means to you. What vision do you have for your life? What can you see yourself doing, how much money can you see yourself earning, where can you see yourself living, etc.? Write this information down.
Now read it again. If you were able to step into this new reality right now, how would you feel? Would you hesitate? Maybe tell yourself that it’s too good to be true? Would you shy away from one part of your vision or another?
Take your time and think about this for as long as you need to, because your fears WILL make themselves known if you give them the opportunity. Once they do, you will be able to work through and resolve them forever.
Hint: most fears relating to success are completely groundless. We fear the possibility of something happening, but such an occurrence is so remote that it’s not even worth worrying about. Ninety-nine percent of the time, we realize we were just being paranoid.
However, even with realistic fears that aren’t so groundless, we are usually pleased and surprised to discover that we already have the ability to work through any challenges they may present. The realization of our fear ends up not being such a big deal after all.
If, during the above exercise, you can’t come up with a single uneasy feeling regarding your success, then it is possible that you simply don’t have any fear of success. Not everyone does. Your sole obstacle might be staying disciplined, or forming a solid plan, or even simply getting clear about what you really want.
Does your work make you happy? Or are you simply trading hours for dollars doing something you couldn’t care less about?
Meaningful work means different things to different people.
Some of us believe that in order for our work to be meaningful it must have a huge impact on the world. Discovering a cure for cancer, feeding millions of starving children around the world, or protecting endangered species are good examples of what most people would consider meaningful work. But is that all? What if our passions lie elsewhere? Can any type of work be meaningful?
Yes - to those who benefit from it!
Consider an alternate definition of meaningful work: something that you feel passionate about, which also provides value to the world.
Any type of job or career can be valuable, if you think about it. Doctors, lawyers, accountants, caterers, musicians, artists, housekeepers, dog walkers, party planners, product manufacturers, hair stylists – they are ALL providing something of value.
The very first step towards success in any occupation is to become interested in it. - Sir William Osler
In that sense, any job at all can be meaningful. But is it meaningful to YOU?
This is where a lot of people go wrong, by choosing work that “has meaning” but is not exactly meaningful to them.
Perhaps your high school guidance counselor convinced you to go into medicine, but your true passion is music. Or your father was a lawyer, so you felt obligated to follow in his footsteps. Or you weren’t sure what to study in college, so you picked a field that seemed simple and paid well but now you feel bored.
You may not think it matters what you do, as long as you’re able to pay the bills. Or you may be a “weekend warrior,” devoting weekdays to a mundane job and following your passions on the weekends.
There is nothing wrong with this if it makes you feel happy and fulfilled. But if you walk around with a constant feeling of frustration and emptiness, you might want to re-evaluate your career path and choose something that truly fulfills you.